Fear of Allah,  Love, Trust, Understanding Key to Sustaining Happiness in Marriage – NASFAT 

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ZAINAB TANIMU
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Fear of Allah,  Love, Trust, Understanding  Key to Sustaining Happiness in Marriage – NASFAT

 

 

Zainab Tanimu

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Kaduna, Northwest Nigeria
Nastrul -L- Fatih Society NASFAT has called on the need to put the fear of Allah first in whatever one does.
It should be the bedrock on which our homes are built for sustainable peace.
This call was made at the just concluded 24th NASFAT Annual Women’s Week Celebration which ran through the week.
The one week celebration marked simultaneously in all NASFAT branches worldwide gathered a large turnout of people at NASFAT Doka Branch Kaduna.
The Guest Speaker, Dr. Fati Bakare delivering her lecture on the theme titled, “Sustaining Happiness in Marriage –  Islamic Perspective drew the attention of couples and the “would – be” to the importance of laying a solid foundation at the early part of their marriage. Reason being that it is the time, the love blossoms.
The wife she advised should use the first 6months to 2yrs to work hard in sustaining her marriage. It is a critical period therefore, should increase her lbadah (worship). Commiting her affairs to Allah for guidance.
“The first two years of marriage is the time couples should mold their marriage so that they can have an everlasting love between them. (husband and wife). This goes to our daughters too.”
Dr. Bakare who is also a guidance and counseling officer, stressed the importance of mutual trust, love and understanding in a marriage.
Saying, the presence of these three attributes will bring about peace in a home thereby sustaining the marriage.
“We should try to be friends with our husbands right from the very first day so that you have something to discuss. We need to create beautiful memories that we can live with if he is no more.”
Lamenting on the decline in moral values with the advent of all manners of negative things learnt from the social media, much she said need to be done to put the children on the right track.
She noted that adults including housewives are no exceptions because some of the things they watch have negative effects on their marriage.
“These luxuries are shaping our homes negatively. What we watch affect our homes. We no longer read but always watch films that have negative tendencies.
“Let’s teach our children the way of Allah.
It is only the fear of Allah that will not make you do what you are not supposed to do.” She sounded.
Dr. Fati stressed on the importance of parents counseling their children particularly their daughters before marriage because marriage is not bed of roses.
Caution should be taken on the choice of a life partner because it is not all that glitters that is gold. She warmed.
“If a man comes to seek your daughter’s hand in marriage, check his deeds.”
Cautioning the men, “Be careful where you sow your seeds”
The learned scholar charged Muslim societies to create guidance and counselling unit in their various organizations to help in educating Muslim ummah on ways to go about sustaining their marriages. Not only that, should also serve as a platform to educate our children going into marriage.
While acknowledging the importance of communication in our homes for better understanding, she called on women to be supportive to their husbands to help lessen the burden particularly at this trying period.
NASFAT Doka Branch Kaduna Women Affairs Secretary, Hajiya Bashira Sheidu in her opening speech described marriage as the corner stone of our lives.
A societal bond established on the principles of love, compassion and mutual understanding. The Quran she said  has offered guidance on building and maintaining mutual relationship and therefore urged couples to explore the wisdom that lslam provides to nurture and sustain happiness in their marriages.
Hajiya Bashira thanked all those stakeholders and various committees that contributed in making the event  possible and successful.
The branch Chairman, Hon. Musbau Adepoju she said has always been there for the women in all their activities.
Doka Women’s Wing presenting an award to the Branch Chairman, Hon. Musbau Adepoju for his supportive role to the women. Appreciating the surprise,  he thanked and commended them for a job well done.

 

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The Chairman of the occasion, Alhaji lsiaka Yusuf,  Doka Branch, Elders Committee’s Chairman who was represented by his Vice Chairman, Elders Committee Dr. Nuhu Tajudeen Folorunsho gave kudos to the women for a successful outing.
Dr. Folorunsho delivering his message appreciated the women for their resilience while urging them to continue in the same spirit to take Doka Branch to greater heights.
Hajiya Risikat Oyenike Yusuf receiving award on behalf of her husband, Alhaji Isiaka Yusuf for his contributions to the course of Allah.

 

 

 

 

The mother of the day, Hajiya Halima in her commendation urged NASFAT women not to relent in their efforts. NASFAT is a place to be. She added.

 

 

 

Hajiya Halima Saadia appreciated by Doka Women’s wing for her contribution.

 

 

Earlier in an interview, NASFAT Doka Branch Missioner Imam Abdulkabir Uthman quoted from the verses of the Quran and hadith of the Holy Prophet, (saw) on the significant of marriage and how to go about sustaining it.
(L – R) Ustaz lsmail Kolawole, Imam Abdulkabir Uthman and Ustaz Abdullahi Raji

 

 

Marriage he emphasized is compulsory on every eligible Muslim.
Guest speaker, Dr. Fati Bakare being appreciated by Doka Women’s wing.

 

 

 

Youth Amiral Sister Ummulkhair reciting the Quran.

 

 

The one week programme included
visitation to houses of some elders, widows and the sick to appreciate and pray for them.
Just as the saying goes, behind any successful man is a woman, so also was the support of the men during the  journey.
The Secretary, Women’s Week Organizing Committee, Hajiya Jemila Dumoye expressing satisfaction with the success recorded in a chat with Newsreservoir, commended the efforts of the committee Chairman, Alhaji Abdulateef Lare Jimoh who she said showed a lot of commitments despite that it was women’s programme.
“Alhamdulllah,we thank Allah for giving us all it takes. At least using our energy and it paid off.”
What was it like in the mix of mothers?
Committee  chairman has this to say.
“Honestly,  being the Chairman of the committee and the only man, l learnt a lot. I learnt so much especially that of being patient. For you to sustain your home, you need to be more patient. You have to be patient with them. Alhamdulllah, we were able to understand ourselves, work together to achieve success.
“I will also want to appeal to the women, our mothers that they should at this trying period be more patient with their husbands. They are going through a lot of challenges because of the economy situation.”
Alhaji Abdulateef Jimoh is also the Vice Chairman, NASFAT Doka Branch Kaduna.
As part of the women’s week activities, the women were taken through some exercises to keep the body and soul together. Health is wealth they say.
Exercise instructor, Muhammed Tawheed Olanrewaju during one of the exercises.

 

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Health committee members on ground during the event

 

 

Women of aljalna during the aerobics/fitness exercise.

 

 

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